Masculinity: having qualities appropriate to or usually associated with a man
Those qualities include but are not limited to handsomeness, ruggedness and the all important virility- from the Latin vir, “man”, is the quality of having strength, energy, and a strong sex drive.
Manhood is attuned to social conditioning. Watch TV for all of 5 minutes and you’ll see highlights of a physically perfect athlete dunking over another, a pick up truck that can haul the Earth away from all it’s problems and some sexual enhancement drug warning to call a doctor if an erection lasts longer that 5 hours. However, psychologists and psychoanalysts such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung believed that aspects of "feminine" and "masculine" identity are subconsciously present in all human males. Which means there is hope. If men have both masculine and feminine qualities present at all times then the tools to reverse our damaged psyches is reversible. As the tide shifts socially then so too should it psychologically. If we have the capacity to adapt and nature has already provided the attributes capable of doing so, what’s the problem? In short, pride.
The eternally feared derision of “not being a man” is engrained in us all, passed down from generation to generation. As soon as a man’s manhood is brought into question they will assuredly find the closest beer, chug it, smash it against their forehead, hit a home run over Fenway’s green monster and punch a Great White Shark in the nose. More seriously, they will grasp tighter to typical male dominated standards like strict male dominated hierarchy, i.e. religion, homophobic beliefs, i.e. staunch Conservatives, and physical tasks, i.e. coal mining.
The masculinity problem is an individual, societal and environmental issue. What must be avoided at all costs is an overemphasis on masculinity with a disregard for consequences and responsibility, which is known as machismo, which is nothing but insecurity.