A man in a woman's world: Living in a matriarchal society
Is this truly what men fear most?
As modernization encroaches, the Mosuo people who live deep in the Himalayas in southwest China struggle to maintain their ostensibly feminist culture. Women are the heads of Mosuo households. They are responsible for owning and passing down property and family names. Mothers retain their children, holding onto power like the powerful and chilling mountain they inhabit. Sons are bound to their mothers for life, but their mothers are not bound to their partners. Women are allowed to change partners as they wish, even to the point where they may not know the father of their children… and thats okay, further proof that a stigma is created out of thin air.
Men are allowed to visit their current spouses only at night which is known as “walking marriages”. This isn’t the same as texting, ‘you up?’ Yes, one night stands can occur but usually this tradition consists of regular encounters that can also become life-long partnerships. The point is that love is the central focus, not making babies, not getting married and not buying a house with a white picket fence. Which, if you think about it, shifts the power back to the woman. In our modern American society, so many women settle for undeserving men, for a myriad reasons I suppose, but one being that society has put marriage as a goal and the clock is ticking. This gives men the power. Not in these Himalayan foothills, no sir. This has the emotional equivalency of what American girls grow up wishing upon a star, that a man will court them, cherish them and love them... all without the "save me" complex. With the Mosuo, love dictates the length of the relationship and never officially exchange vows. Men don’t get to tell the women how to raise their kids. They don’t get to exert their power and influence.
Throughout their lifetimes, the amount of sexual partners a woman takes is completely up to her. No stigma. No letter "A". No slut shaming. On the reverse, men- no bragging about exploits because in actuality, the tables have turned. Chalk it up to my romantic view but I would assume that Mosuo men understand their value is predicated on how much they cherish the women. In short, in the sack, the men are expendable.