Herbivore men - Young Japanese men who naturally detach themselves from masculinity.
The term was coined in 2006 by the columnist Maki Fukasawa. In Japan, sex is translated as 'relationship in flesh’ therefore herbivore refers to those men not interested in ‘flesh’. Japanese philosopher and professor at Waseda University, Masahiro Morioka, characterizes Herbivore men as:
- 1) having gentle nature
- 2) not bound by manliness,
- 3) not aggressive when it comes to romance
- 4) viewing women as equals
- 5) hating emotional pain.
Take the pursuit of sex out of the equation. I can see all of the bars shutting their doors now.
Think of the heartache. All of the embarrassing moments. All of the times that your male ego was damaged by asking to buy a girl a drink only to have her scoff in your face. (Yes, I'm aware that most men refer to that gesture as a numbers game, but that’s indicative of the problem). Think of the wasted time, wasted energy, money, brain power and productivity. Whoa, we’re sounding a little bit like machines- after all glorious, pleasurable sex is part of what separates us from the animal kingdom, that and our cognitive brain.
Most importantly, by taking away the desire for sex takes away the fear of humiliation and its potential violent reaction. So much of sexual misconduct/assault is overcompensating for the rejection and fear that cut down the man’s ego. Take away that humiliation, past/present/potential, and we may just be left with good conversation sans ulterior motives. Remove the desire for sex, removes its power. This frees a man up to focus on the self, on work, the betterment of the world around him- that may be a bit much but I’d like to talk to the women who are close to these men and see the differences they see and feel.
American men need to take a hard look at the first four. By stripping down the ideas of masculinity to the bare bones and getting through the initial emotional change that comes with it, men will realize that their entire identity does not have to revolve around being the “best” and “getting the girl”. The last one, ‘hating emotional pain’ I think is the antithetical to what I feel is necessary to change. There must be emotional pain, otherwise we risk simply floating through life with no real direction. Love can only come from the risk of pain. Also, in order for men to change, there will be some bruised egos, fear not my friends, life does go on, unless well, herbivore men take over the population and sex ceases to exist as we know it.